i have been married for 3 years and we have children together. I love my husband , I really do . however my best friend and I have been having a very flirty 3months and he has confessed that he loves me and he has very strong feelings for me. I too have strong feelings for him. we have tried to ignore it and forget about it but it won't go away my head is full of him and his of me. I am considering on having an affair with him as I want him so much, I have no intention of leaving my husband and I have told him this.
he is thirty and single and has nothing to lose I have everything but I just want him. I have no understanding of why as the sex with my husband is great and emotional he is prefect ..he is great . so why do I have this urge to cheat on the best thing in my life with my best friend. I just need some help advice as I am screwed up and I can't talk to anyone about it as my other boyfriend is my sister in law.
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Ouch not good. The problem you're having is that you are having a dopamine rush. Dopamine is the love chemical and when you love anything(food, pets, people, etc.) your body starts producing it. The first thing you need to do is stop seeing your best friend as such a perfect person.(this is an illusion dopamine creates. You believe that he is the greatest guy in the world even though he could be a drug dealing pimp.) Find imperfections in his character and focus on them. Although you may not believe they exist that is because you didn't want to find them. Like for instance you said he has nothing to lose... So basically he is a deadbeat? My guess probably living paycheck to paycheck? Now after you find imperfections about him look for the perfections in your husband and watch as your body apathetically switches your lovy feelings back over to your husband in a flash. Don't even try lying to yourself and say you REALLY love your best friend. The only thing you're experiencing right now is a dopamine rush. Most likely caused by prolonged exposure with a another man. Ever heard of how you stick a man on an island populated by women they will fall instantly in love with him? Well it's plainly obvious he was the one there when they started feeling horny rofl.2