My boyfriend of 5 months and I had been fighting a lot lately (almost daily, if not daily) for about the past couple months or so. He's having severe issues with depression (he just started seeing a psychiatrist) and it's been really hard.
About a week ago he said he wasn't happy anymore in the relationship and needs to work on his depression and didn't want to be in the relationship anymore.
I had been unhappy too (just hadn't said anything) because of the fighting but before all the arguing, we were happy. So I asked him if he'd be willing to give it a few days (no specified amount of time) and see if we can stop arguing and see if he feels happy again. Four days later, I wasn't happy and it didn't seem like he was either (we hadn't been spending time together like we were supposed to) and we broke up that night; that was three nights ago. I left Friday night and came back Saturday night and am staying here for three weeks or so while I get my stuff together.
One of my friends was trying to make me feel better and gave my number out to a bunch of her guy friends and my phone was like exploding last night. An old guy friend of mine got in touch with me and wanted me to come over and I considered it because I was feeling really sad and wanted a distraction.
My ex got so mad and was telling me to leave and just go if that's what I wanted (repeatedly). It was obviously that it was really upsetting to him. He told me that he didn't care if I was dating but that he cared and it upset him if I was having sex with another guy. He said he still loves me and cares about me when I asked. I told him that I still love and care about him and he said that me telling him that mattered to him but that if it was true, I wouldn't be going to see other guys. At night, the past two nights, he's had us sleep in the sweethearts cuddle (my head on his chest and his arms around me, which is how we've always slept) and said he wanted to (not just out of habit).
- Wants to get back togetherVote A
- Doesn't want to get back togetherVote B
He again got obviously upset, and told me that he had lied when he'd told me that he didn't care if I was dating.
What do you guys think?