I met this guy online and we have been dating since the beginning of July.
Everything was fine, at first.
He started opening up about his past and talking about hobbies and only one really bothered me. He crossdresses. Normally have no issues with this, but he's a total narcissist about it. Like, he gets turned on by seeing himself dressed up like a girl. It causes lots of problems because he starts acting like a straight girl, too. And goes so far as to say things like "I wish you had a dick" and this hurts like hell.
He's also talking about MILFS at work and random people he would fuck if they asked and reminds me that I'm younger than him all the time. I'm also smarter than he is, so I can predict what he's going to say most of the time before he even opens his mouth. He aslo has mental disorders up the ass. Like, Depression, Schizophrenia, Multiple Personality Disorder, and he's delusional and crazy clingy. Every time we fight or I bring up that something bugs me, he starts with the whole "I'm meant to be alone forever wondering this earth by myself for all eternity" shpeal. He's also an addict. Like, Alcohol, and sometimes I think he started using drugs again.
He also has gotten very whiney. He complains about literally anything and everything. It's gotten to the point where I'm emotionally checked out as is and even have developed a crush on two other people.
However, I'm not acting on either of them because I'm in a relationship.
And I mentioned how he's clingy, I feel I should clarify. He doesn't ask where I'm going when I tell him I'm leaving my house or who I'm with or when I'll be home and he doesn't ask where I'm going when I leave a room. By clingy, I mean that we got to our one and a half month marker and told me he plans on asking me to marry him.
I literally have no clue what I should do. Like, I want to leave but I don't want to deal with how whiney and suicidal he will be if I do leave.
Like, I have had people I dated in the past commit suicide when I left them and I do not want to be the reason why another person writes a suicide note. (This sounds really bad, but I just wanna explain that I tend to date a lot of people who are damaged and come from abusive homes and have a lot wrong with them, mentally)
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The fact you said shpeal caught my attention. I'll give you the key to breaking up with someone as unbalanced as him but i want you to address your own issues that attract you to guys like that. I don't know if it was child abuse, an alcoholic in the family, bullying or the fact you had too many material things and not enough love whatever it is you cannot fix these guys. It's unhealthy for you to continue dating mentally unbalanced men so I suggest you find your own peace. Ok so you want to break up with him it's easy but will take about 2 weeks. You turn into him but worse. You become clingy whingey never ask how he is or ignore what he says and continue in your mindless rants about you against the cruel world. Then say you want to have 20 children and 50 cats. When will he have the money to buy a house and support you so you don't have to study and work. Become paranoid that he shouldn't go anywhere cos someone might want to sleep with him. Ask him every 20 minutes to send you a selfie so you know where he says he is. Keep telling him the girl in the shop keeps checking him out. You know what he will give out that you've changed. You're not the girl he thought you were. He will break up with you when he does block him from everything in your life change your number if you have to.0
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