Who believes women need to be careful about ASKING men about advice on friendship with ex's because most men (NOT ALL) are insensitive to the things that we easily perceive . Example that girl on FB who just wants to be friends- we know she looked up year profile and wants to get with you whether you have a girlfriend or not! That extra friendly co-worker who so easily points out that you have a jealous girlfriend (she wants you too). They all just hide it under a thin veil of friendship and make us feel we're paranoid. Views please!
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Generally, men don't operate on subtle hints, especially when those hints are supposed to chain together along a certain thought pattern ("I want to be friends" -> "I'm not showing interest" -> "I'm playing hard to get so you'll be attracted to me" -> "I want to be more than friends"). Most guys I know are more straightforward with their approach.
Women aren't crazy, but picking up on subtle hints is not something men are used to doing. Men who are good at picking up on them usually have experience with it (have dealt with it from plenty of women before), and the ones who don't will be completely oblivious. If you like a man, just tell him that you think he's sexy. Don't tell him that his current girlfriend is jealous- he will more likely than not dismiss you as a bitch for sticking your nose where it doesn't belong (his relationship).
In short, don't expect people to pick up on subtle hints. Just say what you mean.0