I can't seem to get over my ex, I feel like I have moved on but Its only because I've been trying so hard to convince or lie to myself by saying that I have. I feel like I never got a proper time to grieve over it as I was too busy trying to occupy myself with work and seeing friends so I wouldn't think about it. I still miss him and still even feel like I love him or at least have some sort of feeling towards him. It's been 4 months now and I should probably be over it he claims that we both agree the ship has sailed I honestly don't think or feel that way and I'm not to sure if he does either. I did however tell him a couple months back that I got over him within a month because I was trying to be a bitch and act like I don't need him. He was shocked by this so it felt good but I never meant it I was being spiteful it makes me question whether he believed me or not. I honestly feel if he was to come up to me and want to try again I more then likely would even though he treated me so terribly at times he also treated me so great too. He initiated the breakup on a night when we were drunk but it was finalised and came to a mutual decision to end things the next day, I would say it ended quite smoothly and on the same page. I still see him sometimes due to us having mutual friends so this does make it harder to get over him I guess. I've only seen him 5 times since we ended. The only times we have messaged or really talked was initiated by him because I didn't want him to think I had any feeling of wanting to rekindle. We wanted to stay "friends" after the breakup for the sake of our friends but I'm finding it very difficult because I still want to be more then friends and feel as if I'm still hung up by hoping that he eventually realises that he had made a mistake. I think this is because he's only recently admitted to me that he knows what he did wrong and he's sorry for it and said he's making changes now.
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Most Helpful Guy
You have to use paragraphs and condense man, this is diarrhea of words.
What i got out of it... you broke up and still see your ex?
Stop interacting with your ex, it's still too soon for the two of you to see each other since emotions are still involved and this only slows down the process... it's very easy to fall back into the swing of things.
Think about it, what if you quit meth... however you hung out with meth users all the time and it was always around you? You'd never be able to move on.0
Most Helpful Girl
Hmmm... I feel like I'm listening to myself a year ago. Well, all you have to do is cut all contact and not talk nor see him anymore. Next time your friends ask to hang out, ask if he's gonna be there. And if he is, don't go. It's normal to mourn when you break up, it's normal to want to hurt the other because we're hurting. What you should do is not showing how you feel to HIM. He doesn't need to know you're sad, it's obvious! Just live your life happily and do what you have to do ad do it efficiently. It's gonna be hard, but it's gonna come. I thought it only took me 2 months to get over him, but it actually took me 8. I am finally over him and don't think about him as much as before. He still has that "special" place in my life/story, but he's from the past and he has to stay there. He tried coming back with me more than once, but I refused. I'm one of those "you have 1 shot" people. I'll give you a chance to convince me about something (here, a relationship and my heart), but if you mess up, you're out. That's what you should do. People, even as friends, will work harder to "earn" you. You don't hve to feel bad because someone is unable to see your worth.1