I've been dating a guy for three years. Over the course of these years I truly believed he was my best friend and I thought we were very close. We were talking of engagement and preparing to live together. Imagine my surprise as his ex fiance starts messaging me over facebook, sending me screenshots of sexual texts messages he sent to her over the course of our entire relationship.
Whats more is there were five other girls, three of which I know personally and have met before through him, thinking they were his friends/ dating his guy friends.
There were no red flags. He would let me use his phone, leave his facebook logged in, text and call me throughout the day. I trusted him so much.
He admits to all of this now. He cries and tells me he has a "problem". He claims to have always loved me and I don't buy a word of it. I want him to remain as miserable as possible for as long as possible. I want him to feel what I feel. What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
Unbelievable!. He was cheating on you this whole time and he managed to cover it so well, but you see the truth comes out one day in some way or the other. I can totally understand your feelings, I can understand your anger, frustration. Are you thinking about revenge? do you want to do the same thing he did to you?
Well, let me tell you that you are not wrong to want revenge or get back at him, but then revenge is a personal choice and it involved planning, time and effort so just think are you willing to devote your time in trying to take revenge from him?
Moreover let's say you do that, what difference will be between you and him? Anyway that's totally your choice. Let me also tell you and I am sure you know this, cheating is an unforgivable act, and it is never justified.1
Most Helpful Girl
The best way to make him feel miserable is giving him the cold shoulder, cutting him out of your life entirely and moving on without uttering another word. So, don't respond to his messages, calls or pleads. Don't even read them. Delete them, delete his number, remove him on all your social media accounts and finally block him. It'll silently tell him that he has absolutely zero control over you and that he has ruined the relationship the two of you had, to the point of you never wanting to speak to him or see his face again.
If you respond to anything, you'll just be giving him the attention he wants from you, even if you tell him to stay away or to not contact him anymore. You don't owe him a single word and if you keep 100% silent, that will hit him harder than anything else.8