I broke up with my boyfriend almost 9 months ago. Our relationship was only getting better and better but then one day we just stopped talking and for 6 months we ignored each other... I asked him why this happened and if he was angry but he said that I was the one to stop talking to him and that he wasn't angry at all. In those 6 months he changed a lot. He started acting weird and pretending not to care and to be 'cool' but it is so not him. He has always been a shy guy and he told me his feelings seriously but now he pretends that it didn't happen and he acts like a completely different guy. Can he just stop loving me like that? I was his first love and from the way he acted I knew that he's a keeper but now he is treating me just as a friend, no, even worse than that, he is being awkward and sometimes even mean so I have no idea what he feels for me. 6 months I ignored him but these past 2 months I started being friendly again and he replied in a cold way and he made me become jealous when with other girls, Like he started chatting with one girl in a group chat that I took a part in and he was so nice to her and he was talking in same way I tried to talk to him, he even asked her same questions that I asked him... I wrote him a long message as a way of expressing my feelings becore completely deleting him from my life but then he replied while blaming me agin for being the one to ignore him... I want to move on and I stop caring about him, after thinking bout what person he has became I really start disliking him but it takes one eye contact for me to start loving him again. I just can't just let go so easily and I have no idea what to do, maybe anyone could share their opinions? My friends say that he is hurt so he is pretending but I don't really think so... Maybe he really just never loved me?
Most Helpful Guy
... and your friends are probably 99,99% right. He is hurt. From his perspective , you just stared to ignore him out off blue. So why would he trust you now? Why open up so you can hurt him again? I speak from experience here , I got hurt by my first love and I shut down for 4 years , there was no way in hell I would tell some girl how I feel and give her power to hurt me.1
Most Helpful Girl
He definitely loved you a lot. Maybe something happened to him that you don't know about during those 6 months. I don't want to say this... because I think you might just keep liking him but... the fact that he purposely tries to make you jealous and is blaming you for the break up means that he still has some feelings for you. Honestly, I want you to move on but at the same time I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to move on myself. If you want to move on then I think you should definitely try to start liking someone else and no more big paragraphs about how you feel about him. If you aren't able to move on however, I think you should start ignoring him and just hanging out with your friends. Do the NCR (no contact rule) for 2 months. No texting (delete his number) No messaging (remove yourself from the group) No eye contact. This'll drive him insane and might even make him realise that he misses you and your relationship. Whatever decision you choose, I hope that you're happy Hun :)1