I did so much for this guy. He was my 1st boyfriend and 1st love. I was always bullied and hurt by everyone. He promised he'd never hurt me. He'd always tell me this was forever he doesn't want anyone else. Our friends thought we'd get married. He's 19 I'm 21. We were 5 days short of making it a year. I had a huge plan for that night and it was ruined. I did so much for him and never got much in return. I'd buy him meals, presents, give him massages. And I'd never get a massage back he'd say he was too tired. Gifts he'd say oh yours is on your way (for Christmas, vday, our kinda first anniversary date he asked me 2 weeks before we dated) he never got me anything but a necklace. He never really took me out on dates either. And would pay the waiter but in the car would ask me for half the money. Which is fine but I would pay for him at times. When we'd go to his parents farm he never showed me how to help so I'd clean their kitchen up for them. He told me he broke up with me bc his family said I didn't seem interested in it which I was I was just never shown and that he will have to take over a farm and need someone that would be committed. He promised me he would stay with me and he took my vCard I would have never done that bc I wanted to wait for marriage or wait until I knew the guy was forever. But one day he went too far and I tried stopping him but he did it. He apologized so much and we made it through. But the last 2 weeks before he dumped me he told me I need to help at the farm and he doesn't want me leaning on him in public like putting my arm on him or holding his hand. I just thought it was cute. And I seen other couples do it and I just wish he'd show me off. It's like he was embarrassed by me. I miss him so much and I did so much for him. We are still being friends because he wasn't really an ass and we sit together at hockey games (season tickets) but I miss falling asleep in his arms and having someone there for me.
Will he come back to me? What did I do wrong?
The date thing hurts bc I wanted to go to a movie for so long he's say he was too tired but he'd have sex with me every night. I feel so dirty and used now. Especially bc he said he was thinking about this for 2 weeks but was fucking me during that time
Will he want me back
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'We are still being friends because he wasn't really an ass'
Uh... So I'd like you to read your post thoroughly, then reread that line.
He was most definitely, 100%, an ass. He was not into the relationship as much as you were, and led you on instead of leaving you. He's a dick.
Unfortunately, you let him do that. You didn't see the warning signs, and you let him walk all over you. Now you have a chance to move on, and meet someone better. If you don't take it, that's pretty silly.
I'd guess that part of the problem is the age difference. It would be different if the ages were reversed, and that's because of the rate of biochemical development in the brain. Women's brains mature faster than males' do, so the gap between the two of you, would be a lot larger than the gap between a 21 year old male, and a 19 year old female.
You did nothing wrong. Forget him, he isn't worth your time. Move on, meet someone else, and be happy.1