I have been dating a guy for a couple weeks now. Usually we meet once a week. He went away over the weekend and sent me an email letting me know and that he enjoyed my company at our last date, and hoped I had a good weekend. He got back early from his trip and sent me an email letting me know that he was back and hoped I had a good weekend...and "he would call me this week". We did not have sex...only made out. I didn't deny him sex...that's just as far as he wanted to go.
Confusion sets in now...is he thinking twice about our dating or just wants a little time or? Please advise as we have been dating a few weeks and I like what I see of this guy. Things were good. How long do I give him, do I contact him back or ?
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You need to give him as long as it takes for him to contact you. I call this letting the guy set the pace. Because women are so much more programmed for relationships than guys, we move much quicker than they do in developing feelings and then worrying what every little thing they do means. It can be a big turn-off to a guy to figure out that the woman he is dating is worrying about calls and dates. So, I let the guy set the pace in the beginning and it not only gives him the time he needs to see how he feels about you, but it also tells you a lot about what he is thinking. A guy who is lukewarm on you will slowdown contact, not speed it up. He will not try to reassure you he is still interested or worry that you wondered where he was over the weekend.
Oh, and the only guys who drop you for not having sex right away are guys who can only see sex as being the reason they are dating you. Personally a guy who dropped me for not having sex when I am not ready is a guy I am happy to not see again. I only want a guy who cares enough about me to listen to me and respect my limits. A guy who feels that way about you will not want to lose you over something as simple as sex. Trust me, they are pretty good about living without sex. It is something they have to do for a big part of their single life.1