OK the story is so long...
We went out for 3.5 years, she was my high school sweetheart :) when we where going out after the 9th month we broke up, and she "went out" with some other guy for a couple of days, then she realized she had feelings for me. We hooked up for two months and then we got back together. Just this past DEC 3rd we broke up. She said that we fought a lot and things weren't the same..(which is kind of true). A week later I found out by her that she made out with his cousins best friend, but never got serious. almost 3 weeks later I find out she's getting to know this 26 year old guy, (shes 19 by the way). so a week later I visit her to let her know that I love her and make her a love letter and stuff...and she told me she was seeing the guy. I got so upset and when I went to talk to her she said the guy asked her out but she told him not yet, but of course...they WHERE making out and stuff :S talking to her the guy called her, and I took the phone and talked with him. I told him that I really cared for her and that he better not do stupid $hit with her (if you know what I mean). I told him that if she really liked her to take things slow cause she had just broken up with me and made out with some other dude...and all these things I told him he never knew and I told him that my ex was really messed up and was being such a whore :( . I got super p*ssed of because if this "dude" really like her he would've defended her and when I told him she was such a bitch and a slut :S!
I got so upset and went home to get ALL the things she ever gave me and returned them to her.
so it has been over a week ever since and I think they are going out now, the guy is 7 years older than her and lives 4 hrs away from my ex. I think he only visits her every weekend, but calls her everyday I guess.
she tells me that she doesn't love me and she doesn't want to know anything bout me. she acts with such a big hate towards me and I only care bout her...i was pushing her in all ways and its been a week since I spoke to her. last time when we talked like civil beings, she told me she would never have a boyfriend like me, and no one would top me. she also noticed I had lost some weight and she said that she LOVED it when I didn't care how much I ate and loved me for how I was...(im not chubby just have a bit of baby fat that I always hated). she also said that she DID loved me and she doesn't know how she managed to be with me for a long time despite the fights and issues we had going. she was being super nice and stuff and we talked for an hour or so without any fights...but now, she's being super mean, and I know if I call her she Will answer, but might be all bitchy :S
I feel better now, but like at moments I miss her and want her on my side and be like we were when we didn't have issues :)
any advice please?
i feel like SO messed up
should I try and win her back? I mean that's what I did the first time we broke up and I DID win her back...
but like I don't wanna seem desperate and call her to meet NOW.
we haven't talked in 8 days, should I wait another week? or maybe a month?
then ask her to meet me at the bank?
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alright ill give you advice but you actually have to go through it... I know how you feel I been their and its worst feeling EVER .. and me and that girl went for a year. right now no matter what even if ur in bad terms or good terms . cut off a contact. but don't tell her you are.. just live ur life. she's not gonna come back . take everyday day by day no matter how bad ur feeling just ride through it . but don't initoate contact . you are gonna think of her but always remember she's not mine no more. its time to make you feel better...o yea and I didn't talk to her for 3 months and she was talkin to somke guy and guess what she called me about two days ago crying how much she misses me but we came to conclusion that she still wants to be single, it still hurt to but I'm taking everything day by day and girls are confusing so don't try to understand them1