I really need to talk to my ex. I've been on one week of contact and it's been extremely tough. I can't sleep because my mind won't shut off, I can hardly eat, and I'm stressing myself out so bad that I'm making myself sick because I want to talk to him. I don't want to send him a long message telling him how I feel because he won't respond to it, I would like to send him a short text asking if we could talk on the phone. I have a lot to say, and bombarding him with 10 page text messages would be a little too much. We were suppose to be working things out so we could get back together, but every thing changed last week when he brought his ex back. I'm hurting pretty bad from it that's why I haven't texted him for a week. What should I do I'm driving myself crazy?
Most Helpful Guy
Stay busy. You'll be alright in about a month. Each day progressively gets easier. Getting the closure you feel necessary to function is not going to come easy. You'll have your chance, just don't wait on it.
Begin your work on putting him out of sight, then he'll be out of mind.3
Most Helpful Girl
I'm sorry that you are going through this. I know the feeling. You haven't had closure and you are seeking it. You were also taken off guard with this and didn't want this outcome. I will tell you that talking to him isn't going to solve anything. Please don't take this the wrong way. He is not responsible for your happiness; you are. I can say that because I have been where you are and I had to learn that very thing. It will be difficult at first, but you need to find yourself again. Do things to distract yourself in the meantime. Keeping busy and surrounding yourself with people really does help. Don't be self-destructive. That will only hurt you further. It may help you to write your thoughts, feelings and what you want to say to him into a journal. Get it out. Then, when you feel relieved, burn the journal. Fire equals re-birth. This writing may take a while, so be patient. You will go through many steps and emotions until you feel the acceptance. Having that acceptance feels great. Burning those negative thoughts and feelings feels even better. THAT will be the kind of closure you need. There's nothing he can do to give you what you seek. He's also not willing to help you and you can't force him.
If you have any questions or want to vent, I'm all ears. I'm not a counselor, but I am a woman who was in shoes similar to yours. I know how you are feeling and I know what has helped me vs what just did me more harm. Good luck, hun.1
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