Gonna make this as short as possible. Met my now ex girlfriend in February. We dated a little hear and there and got serious in August, moved in together in October and she is gone. Her reason for the break up was that I was smothering her and suffocating. Looking in it now she is right I was. I hadn't been in a relationship in 6 years and that closeness and affection was euphoric and like a crack addict or something I did go overboard with the affection and not having a life without her or wanting her to have one without me. The day she left I was a babbling fool about a text that was totally innocent and she said she was gonna leave for a few days and I got even worse and she said fine packed her stuff and was gone and done. I am NOT usually like that and didn't know I was suffocating her until she was gone and her best friend told me she said that was the reason. By using NC obviously to help me get over it, do the women here believe it will bring her back showing her I am not that needy, clingy and smothering person. Obviously if I truly was I would be begging her right now (this is day 3). She has contacted me several times but for things that she left in the house and Mail and stuff like that. I just read the text and don't reply and took everything of hers to her mothers.
Girls, Ok so will No Contact work for me? Woman's opinions strongly needed?
What Girls Said 1
1. You seem to have possessive traits, so try to work on feeling secure in yourself, and try less to rely heavily on your relationships with other people to feel fulfilled.
2. If you don't want her to "have a life without you" you might want to think about how that isn't a good thing to feel or think about someone you truly care for, you should want them to be happy with or without you.
3. If she felt smothered, it's good for you to have a conversation where you acknowledge where you felt your behaviour could improve, but try to keep the contact minimal, and positive when she does contact you, and let her approach you.
Take this as an opportunity to find how to be happy on your own, because you don't want to develop attachment issues, and end up jumping from one relationship to the other just to have someone.0
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