Was he being insensitive to meet up with his ex? Or should I have accepted his choice to be in touch with his her and trust him? Am I being unreasonable?
I know I stayed in this longer than I should have, but I do whatever it takes to work things out.
I have cut off all contact with him, by the way.
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It doesn't matter whether other people think you are being reasonable or unreasonable. Most people are reasonable about most things but most people have areas where they are more sensitive than others. That is part of being human. When you are in a relationship, you should be respectful of your partner's sensitivities, regardless of whether they are reasonable or unreasonable, because you would want your partner to be sensitive to all of your needs, including the unreasonable needs.
Develop the confidence to say "It doesn't matter what you or anyone else thinks about whether I am being reasonable. This is what I need and if you can't deliver it, you are not the one for me. Adios!"
(If you really need to know. . . his behavior was very unreasonable, so much so that I think maybe he was trying to antagonize you into breaking up with him.)