be appreciated thanks!
Most Helpful Girl
I think that it isn't good to get involved with her again but I know the feeling of wanting to be with someone that isn't good for you. If you still love her then maybe you didn't get closure before? I don't know how it ended but if she didn't give you a reason or gave you a shitty reason or there was anything unsure about the ending then that could be the reason. I think her wanting time to think things through is actually a good sign though. It means she isn't just using you as a rebound. I think she wants to be sure she wants to be with you again and it's not just her current boyfriend treating her badly that makes her long for you. I definitely would not wait for her if you find someone else you wanna be with and I wouldn't tell her you're gonna wait for her. I don't think you should be there for her while she makes up her mind either. In the end though, you're the one that has to make the decision of whether you want to get involved with her or not. If you get involved there's a good chance you'll get hurt. But there's a chance you'll get hurt with every relationship you enter. If you don't get involved you may never get closure and it will take you a really long time to get over her and you'll long for her. But that may happen even if you do get involved with her. If I were you then I would talk to her about all the things she did while you were together that hurt you and make sure she knows that you won't tolerate her doing that again. I would tell her you want to forgive her and start over but you can't do that unless she will treat you better this time. If she brushes you off or tells you she won't then you have your answer. That's also closure. If she seems really sincere and apologizes and tells you she wants to be different and she's gonna put in an effort, then I think it's worth a shot. Just don't say anything that will make her think you'll always be waiting or you will always love her or always be there for her. She may take advantage of that and keep you as a backup. Also when you confront her, I think it's best over the phone or in person because it's harder for her to hide her true emotions. Don't say things like "you always said things that hurt me". That will make her immediately defensive. Say "when you said this, It really hurt me because -----" make sure you use more "I felt" statements than "you did this" statements. It gets your point across without being accusatory. Hope this helped a little..
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Most Helpful Guy
You're her backup plan she come to u when they fuck with her bc you're good to her but that put u in the corner and make u look like her toy leave her bc she will do it again probably she's a bitch type