My ex said that we are never going to be together, he is with the rebound that he left me for. He doesn't want to get with her but he is seeing her. Is there any way I can get him back with him saying this? I haven't texted him after he told me not to text him again. We were suppose to work things out so we could be together, but I feel like I pushed him away and he gave up on us and brought her back. What should I do?
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Oh my dear how I feel your Pain. It isn't really fair, is it? I have some awesome news for you though. Getting back together with someone depends 100% on you. Here's the thing, you have to work on yourself and not for the sake of him, or anyone else for that matter but for YOU. First, let yourself mourn. This pain takes time to heal and you have every right to cry because you were hurt and it's valid. Next, you are going to want some massive support from your friends, plan some girl activities with your friends with things you're good at and enjoy. Then. once you feel like you're in a happier place look inward. What are some ways you've been neglecting yourself? what is something you've always wanted to try? did you want to lose 5lbs? Hit the gym! but make sure it's what YOU want! did you always want to learn to speak French and never had the time? Now that he's not in the picture, you have a LOT more free time I bet... The point is IMPROVEMENT and Self connection. Dollars to Doughnuts though hun, I bet once you've done all this you realize you don't even want him anymore, but if you still do and it's been AT LEAST a month with the happy new you send him a message that has nothing to do with the relationship, make it happy "Hey! I went to see a movie with friends and the main character is so much like you! how have you been?" DO NOT ask if he's seeing anyone or make ANY relationship sounding gestures. Be his friend. Be positive and show him the brilliant, happy and healthy new you. Chances are, he'll regret the break-up and this is where something healthy can begin :) Best of luck to you, and I'm so sorry you're hurting!1
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