My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and I guess we should've sorted it out sooner but he just asked me to marry him.
I said yes but he wants me to quit my job and be a stay at home wife. I'm not okay with that at all. I sat down and talked it out with him and tried seeing it from his point of view. He said the man should provide but I studied hard for my job and I am 100% committed. I'm being promoted to a very good position in a very successful company why would I want to give that up when it's been my dream? I've tried telling him all this but he said he wants a stay at home wife and anything else would make him unhappy. Is it time to breakup or is there a way to negotiate?
i should also add being financially supported by anyone else but myself makes me very uncomfortable
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Don't quit your job and don't marry this guy, even if he gives in. This is a complete deal breaker. He is threatened by your success and he won't support you in your career. He will always want you to stop working. If you have a child then he will really put the pressure on. Find a guy who is proud of the work you do and wants to help you succeed. In all seriousness, marrying this guy could ruin your life.
See "The Feminine Mistake". www.amazon.com/.../14013093806