me and my ex have been together for 4 years, had the perfect relationship, never argued, never fought. we were BEST friends. he doesn't go out, doesn't drink, doesn't party, has few friends, just works and goes to school. earlier times in our relationship I went out a lot, and he started controlling me I starting lying about going, and telling him I wouldn't go when I did. he found out and broke up with me, then got back together the next day. then after a week or so he said he couldn't get over the things that happened in the past, because I've done it a million times. now I'm older, and want the same things as him I want to settle down and be the girl he deserves. he says he doesn't know what he's going to do yet if he wants to be with me again or leave for good, and needs space and time to figure out if he wants to trust me again or not. what do you guys think will he be back? and what's the best way to get him back. I begged for him at first, but now I know for sure the best way is to just not call or any kind of contact at all. any advice is helpful, I'm so depressed and heartbroken..he was the love of my life.
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Trust is the most difficult thing someone can give another person, and when that is broken numerous times it will become even more difficult for that to be made right. He obviously loves you because he is willing to think about things, Is it enough to get back together, now that is the big question. Communication is key to any great relationship and without good communication it will fail most defiantly. He needs his space for sure, that you are right on, don't try to force anything because he will just see your faults, I can understand loosing who you thought was the one, but you really do need to realize you did this yourself. Only time will tell if he wants to be with you or if he can't take that again. And if he does decide to get back together you really need to be totally honest for anything to work. And that really goes for any relationship. Period0