We got married really young, literally the day I turned 18. And he's done a lot for me. My parents had just died a few weeks before we got married and he was all I had and he's been a good husband.
It's that we've grown up to want different lives. I went to college and I got a good job now, whereas got involved in something really sketchy. I don't know what it is exactly but he has more money than he should and he always works nights (he's a mechanic). And he's been involved with this motorcycle gangs which really worries me. His parents are involved with that as well so maybe I shouldn't be surprised but he always said he wanted something different for himself. His dad has been in prison a few times and he always said he didn't want to do that to his wife and children. But well he's heading down that road
So I suggested that we just move away, start over somewhere else but he doesn't want to leave. And the life we have here is not what I want.
So I've been starting to think that we don't have a future. And I feel so bad about thinking that. I don't want to do that to him but what else is there I can do?
Most Helpful Guy
Nine times out of ten, I'd say most people don't have a good reason for divorce. Your situation is a bit unclear -- but it might be the one out of ten that has a good reason.
Press your husband about where he's getting his money. Tell him not knowing is making you really uncomfortable and that you want to know that he isn't doing anything wrong. That you don't want that kind of life for you or him.
Also give him a chance to change things. Let him know that this is something that is troubling to you to the point that you might leave him if he doesn't resolve it. If he doesn't, then it will essentially be a mutual decision to divorce, rather than a one-sided decision. I think you'd feel better about divorce in that situation.0
Most Helpful Girl
Please don't give up on your marriage. Marriage is the good and the bad. I suggest you have a heart to heart conversation with him. No blame game or anything. Express your concern. Ask him to be honest about his work and that you love him regardless. And then after tell him what you want and work on a compromise0