I'm not attracted to my boyfriend physically but I love him.
i think he deserves the best and I've tried to break up with him indirectly telling him that I'm not attracted to him but he works so hard to keep us together and I love that about him but I'm just not feeling it.
My my bursts of physical attraction are just that, bursts... I feel horrible being with him...
But he won't let me break up with him...
I know now I don't want be a cheater but what do I do?
I want to know how hard I must work and where things should just come easy...
I'm 20 and getting serious with a guy that I don't know if I'm ready when I've been telling him that I'm ready
Most Helpful Guy
The kindest thing you can do for him is just break up. You haven't done anything wrong, losing attraction isn't your fault. If its not going to get better, you'll only save yourself and him some trouble by cutting it off sooner rather than later. Obviously it would be better if you were just attracted to him, but given the situation as it is, there is going to be some pain one way or another.4
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Most Helpful Girl
If you really feel like it's something you need to give up on, break up with him directly then. Tell him gently but firmly, in no uncertain terms, that you don't feel the same for him the way he does for you. If you want to wait then wait. Just distance yourself or something. It's a shame cuz he put in so much effort but the sooner you tell him straight, the sooner he can decide if he still wants to put so much effort into a failing relationship. If he won't let you go, then make it as difficult for him as you can and keep telling him.1