I have been with my boyfriend for only 6 months, and I'm starting to feel just off with things. I love him. We've had a bit of a rough patch the last few months, (I'm honestly surprised we've lasted this long.) my insecurities are mostly what caused it -- er I guess so anyways.
I'm all over the place right now, like he makes me laugh and smile, and I love that, but then I think of how we rarely have sex anymore. The sex is absolutely amazing when we do have it, but it's just not enough for me. He's not as affectionate as he once was either. I dunno, is it normal for a relationshiup to become almost stale after a few months? If so, then what the hell is the point in dating anyways?
Most Helpful Guy
What do you mean by "a rough patch the last few months?" How did your insecurities cause the rough patch?
Is lack of sex and affection the issue?
What do you mean by "stale?" Do you mean you want him to act in ways that would surprise you?
He may have a lower sex drive than you and just may not want as much sex as you. It's also possible issues from the relationship have influenced him to not want sex or affection.
I would try and understand what's happening between you two rather than giving up based on frustration. It's very likely you will have similar issues in another relationship and without being about to identify what is happening more closely you can find yourself in a similar situation.
Most answers I've seen on gag to questions like these assume what the person has is bad and told the person to end it, often without knowing what's really happening beyond a superficial depth.1
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Most Helpful Girl
The reason relationships become stale is because people stop putting the effort in like they did to win you over... at the beginning of the relationship.
Love is measured by the bad times, not the good, and a great relationship Isn't dependant on having the absence of problems, it is having the ability to resolve any issues... together as a couple. So communication is paramount. Talking to each other , and letting each other know your needs and how you both feel. Compromising is also necessary.
So let him know that you feel unhappy and that you need more affection. If he loves you ( which I am sure he does) he will make the effort. 💜0