I told my ex last night that I can't be friends with her because how can I be a good friend if I'm not over her? When she tells me about guys she like I help her out but it hurts to do that. I tell her about potential women in my life & she's basically like go ahead have fun. We both care about each other but the problem is I still care in the relationship sense & she cares in the best friend sense. She wants me around & cares when I disappear but I need time to collect my thoughts & figure out what to do so 2-3 weeks should be emough. I don't want to hurt her again by leaving but I don't want to hurt myself by staying so I have two options: either get over her so I can be the friend she deserve or say goodbye & realize I'll never be over her. What can I do? (if anybody has any other options please let them be known asap: time is definitely of the essence)
Most Helpful Girl
Personally, I could never remain just friends with someone I still loved. It would be too painful, and much more painful having to watch someone I love... love someone else. I'm not strong enough to do that. It takes an emotionally strong person to accept only a friendship, when deep down you want so much more.
Letting go is hard and so painful, but holding on is prolonging your pain. Ask yourself which will hurt the most... cutting all contact or having her in your life... only a friend. Which ever one will cause you the least pain, then that should be your choice.
You need time alone to heal. Don't make a rash decision until you have had time to meditate on what is best for yourself.
Sometimes you have to accept... some people can stay in your heart, but not in your life. You can't have a happy future if you are still holding onto the past, and you will never find the right person if you are still holding onto the wrong one 💜0
Most Helpful Guy
I think it's fair to say this. I think basically saying you need time to get perspective and sort of dis-associate your feelings for her is fair0