So my boyfriend decided he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore, but wanted to hang out as friends and keep in touch. Typical "let me lighten the blow" move. It took me a long time to finally accept that he wasn't going to change his mind no matter what I did, so I let him know I was moving on, without him. I have told him several times before I was "done", but deep down I knew I wasn't ready to let the relationship go. I have never stayed friends with an ex, it was always too painful. The same day I messaged him about letting him go, he called me and left a message asking how my Dad was doing (he had recent surgery), and he wanted to say hi, and see if I was "ok". And maybe we'll "talk later". His voice was different, like he was a bit uncomfortable, and knew he was taking a chance calling me.
This guy is absolutely adamant about not wanting to start over with me, even telling me I was driving him crazy with all my texts and FB messages. We argued a lot, and I ultimately pushed him away.
Being rejected hurts, especially when you would do anything to make a relationship work. So when I told him I was moving on, I expected him to be relieved and okay with that. Him calling me was the last thing I expected, especially just hours after I messaged him. I asked him why he contacted me after I was ready to move on and he hasn't responded.
I'm confused about this. Why would he act like he cares now, when he never really did before? Does he regret his decision when he felt I was actually letting him go? I know that when I have broken up with guys, I wasn't calling them on the phone asking how they were, especially knowing thet were hurt and angry.
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When you let him know you were moving on without him, he panicked as he realized he was losing his narcissistic supply... could this the reason behind his phone call?
He said he does not want to be in a relationship with you... believe him. Go no contact and move on. This guy broke up with you, he decided he did not want you in his life... but he does not show you enough respect to let you move on and live your life without him. Life is too short to waste time after selfish and manipulative individuals that would do everything it takes to satisfy their needs, also at the expenses of others! Love yourself, be strong, turn page. I have been in a similar situation - I know how it feels. 💛1