My ex-girlfriend and I have been split for almost 7 months. We were together for 10 years. I'll admit: the last couple of years hadn't been exactly great, and she broke up with me. I have some issues with how she handled it, and what followed. All considered, both of us had issues to deal with.
Anyway, in March, she abandoned me one day while I was at work. We eventually had contact, and I went to get her at her current home so she could collect more of her stuff from my home (she didn't move everything out when she left). Things seemed agreeable for a while, and she said she was interested in counseling and trying to work things out.
In April, a couple of friends called me asking about our breakup. When I asked how they knew, they said they read her Facebook post about it. The post was about a week after I last saw her and she said she was "open minded." I cut contact with her then. Our next contact was when she asked to split from our joint cell phone account. I set up and made the payments for her to do it, but she never followed through.
I eventually asked her when she would get her things. We had set up a date for her to, and she never showed. When I went out of town, she snuck in the house and took some of her things, anyway. After getting home, she texted me again and asked if she could split from the cell account. I never responded, since I had done it before at her request and she never followed through.
I sent her a certified letter with a return receipt, asking her to get her things by the end of November. I know she got it in late October. I told her I was cutting her cell phone on 11 / 01, and would get rid of her things starting 12 / 01, unless she got them.
I've never heard from her. It has been nearly 3 weeks. Some of her belongings are valuable to her: nice makeup, some childhood clothing, etc. It either has monetary or sentimental value.
If we're done, as she claimed we are, why don't she just get her things? I don't want them, they're hers. Ideas?
Thanks for the feedback, all! I really do appreciate the ideas, and if you have more, am open to reading them.
All together, she still has some stuff here. It will probably take another 1 or 2 trips (assuming she shows up again with an SUV and not a large truck) for her to get the last of her things.
But I am surprised she even showed up at all, today.
Most Helpful Girl
You sent her a certified letter with a return receipt asking her to come pick her stuff up by themed of November. If her stuff is still there by then... why don't you just put it in a bag and drop it by her house? You don't have to, of course, but it would be a nice gesture... and it would put an end to this unpleasant situation that neither of you seem to want to let go. It looks like a pretext to keep in contact and fight... No need to involve the police for some make up and some clothing!!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Take them to the local Sherrifs office and explain it to them that these are her belongings and you have been as reasonable as possible in allowing her to collect them but she has not came to pick them up other than the one time she snook in. They may hold them until she chooses to come there to get them or they may say chit can it being they are not your responsibility to hold it for her1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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