Most Helpful Guy
Hey, so I was In the same exact situation except well it was a girl. She just told me today that things aren't working. I asked her 2 months ago when she became distant and basicly everything you said. I asked her countless times to tel me what was wrong she kept saying nothing she made no effort to hang out I would always ask her when she had off. I pleaded to just be honest and she never was. I don't know what is going on in his head but if you don't want to keep it dragging for longer just be straight up with him. "You have changed, you make no effort anymore, Im tiered of it, you owe me an explanation". 2 months is a long time and 1 year and he can't tell you what's wrong? That's total crap he owes you just as she owed me to tell me 2 months ago. She claims it was only the past 3 days. She said good night babe last night? Don't be me I gave her the Chance to say it because I love her. She never had the courage to do so so she let it run. I hope it turns out well good luck. P. s get an answer don't stay in the gray area1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Most Helpful Girl
It could be that he is pulling away. And perhaps does not have the guts to tell you.
But it could also be that he has problems he needs to solve, and perhaps he is not even aware of it. I mean, what if he is overwhelmed, anxious, depressed... and his pulling away because he is withdrawing into himself? I am saying this because I lived a similar experience, from your boyfriend's side. I was depressed and I did not know. My personality completely changed. I had hard time expressing my struggle verbally for number of reasons. I had terrible mood swings - I was super happy and hopeful some days (and we had great times together), some others I was super sad, angry, complaining (and we had fights). I pulled away from him. Low in self-esteem, he thought this was all about HIM while in reality it was about ME ("she changed, she is not nice with me anymore, she does not like me, she is not happy with the relationship, I cannot make her happy, what is wrong with me, I am not happy"). He pulled away too and was not there for me when I needed his help the most. He ended the relationship in a horrible way, he dumped me to pursue someone else and likely cheated ("we were incompatible, I am happy now"). Of course making me hit the rock bottom hard - it was the lowest point I ever reached in my life.
What I am saying here is that you should not immediately jump to the conclusion that his behavior is due problems with you. It could him. I would not exclude the possibility that he is going through a difficult time in his life (for whatever reason, work, family, health). Perhaps his being always tired and forgetful is due to depression. Perhaps he is not comfortable introducing his brother to you (and not vice-versa!).
I would talk to him and express your feelings. See what he says.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE