The first break up was because of a kiss. But we got back together and everything went back to normal. The second one occurred because he wasn't ready for a relationship. In his defense he was very depressed, which I was well aware of. He pushed everyone away. I chased him. I love Him and hated seeing him down. & we got back together. 3rd time, same reason. But this time I blocked him off all social media and did not contact him.
He called 2 weeks later saying he needs me in his life. I was very hesitant, but told him to stop telling me and start showing me. The following day he knocked on my door, genuinely apologetic. We got back together after two weeks. We spoke about our future & how I would move in, in a year and a half (after uni). he came down to stay at my place more than he ever had previously. I was happy, and he told me he was too.
Yesterday I told him we need to go to my cousins, say hello and give the present. He didn't want to. I couldn't understand why it was a big deal. I told him it's important to spend time with my family. He responded with "why, do you think we're going to get married".
I asked if he saw a future with me. he didn't know, when he thinks about his future he sees himself alone, and this is just passing time. I asked where this all came from, he said he hadn't had these thoughts before, it all came in that moment. He said "sorry, I love you, but i change my mind all the time. I tried, but I can't change. you deserve better".
I know I deserve someone better. But he's everything I want, apart from the emotional abuse. Sometimes our relationship isn't healthy, but it's amazing when it's just him and I. But as soon as he has doubt, he turns cold and brutal (like his father).
I know that time will help, but I feel like there's something more. It's like he's two different people.
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It's hard to say if there's more to the breakup then he is telling you because there's not enough information to determine if he's depressed again which is possible. As far as if you are wondering if it's something else there isn't enough information to give you a better answer than that. If he was always hanging out with people or started talking to other women then there might be something more to base it off of. You deserve to be happy and in a healthy relationship hopefully you find it soon!