Also, here's another question...
Am I correct by saying that going through a heartbreak is proof that you were/are still in love with them?
Most Helpful Girl
I think it really depends on the type of person you are that determines how quickly or easily you fall in love.
Your girlfriend could have definitely loved you, and even though it seemed she doubted her love for you, she was probably still being as honest as she could be. I think women can genuinely say they love their man, while still having doubts (doubts about a lot of things that may or may not really be important).
This is where I think your girlfriend could have done better... you're right, if she really loved you, she could definitely put more effort into staying with you. But, this is also because I don't know the dynamics of your relationship or what she's like.
However, generally, if it's really love, I think that women fall in love quickly and deeply, while men fall in love quickly (initially), but gradually (over the long-term), and that it takes quite some time for men to fall in love deeply.
I think you're mostly correct in saying that by going through heartbreak, it was proof of having loved/being in love with them. I also think part of it could be that you go through "heartbreak" over the "routine" of being with something/someone you got so used to. It's like a schedule that you had for so long and suddenly you no longer have to keep it... it's something that you miss just by default. It's like a reaction to a sudden change in how you lived your life.2
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Most Helpful Guy
Tom bro! I asked myself a similar question. I had never known "love" until this girl, who said it first and often. Apparently me coming to know love, i learned, that it was totally unconditional & for this girl me loving her meant "yes" I would do anything to have her in and around my life. Believe me she was extremely difficult to handle but my unconditional love saw past that and Tried Still.
Unfortunate her "love" was conditional and I almost could never win. A mistake on my in, which I would take to heart and fix, apologize and do anything to make things right still meant absolutely nothing to her and she would attempt to break free every time. I'd beg and plead and she would stay.
But eventually... well, she broke free mate. Pretty easy to see she did not love me:(. Feels bro. Girl fall in love easier I say and fall out easier.1