He dumped us 6 months ago and he has never once shown any signs of remorse.
He has however been spending time chatting with a separated women from work. They talk 3-4 hours per day.
he also said that he doesn't care if I make up stuff about him having affairs etc and that he doesn't love me, followed by "move the f on"
is he serious? Did I mean nothing to him?
Most Helpful Guy
After being dumped, 6 months would be too long to go back to the wife, I'm said to say. I can't stand people who do that, as it is. He may have had affairs, hence, he doesn't care. He has told you to move on, so it's quite an idea to do that. If he then comes back, "throw" it all back in his face, quoting him what he has been quoting you, such as the moving on. Teach him the lesson!!!
As to the question did you mean anything to him? Only he could give his honest opinion. It might be an idea to think about how he was with you during the pre-marriage relationship and the marriage, and piece things together to suss out why he left you.
I am 34 and never had a serious relationship, yet I have witnessed a lot of relationships fail for certain reasons. My brother is 7 years older than me and is on his second marriage. Some marriages work, some don't.
There are so many things to think about when it comes to "Why didn't we work out?" "What could I have done to make it better?" It might have been that he was the wrong type for you. I find that people meet in Nightclubs, and looking for possible partners in nightclubs, are mainly thinking of one thing and it ain't marriage.
I've got a heart of gold and wear it on my sleeve, and I believe it is for this reason that I have never genuinely been with anyone.
Hope you find happiness whatever you choose to do. I believe your "husband" isn't worth the tears for doing such a thing to you, keep a strong heart and it should carry you on to where you are to go next.0
Most Helpful Girl
If you didn't mean anything to him, then why would he marry you? You need to stop thinking what he's doing right now and concentrate on why in the first place he was so attracted to you?
At the very beginning of the relationship, he had seen something in you. So you need to stop thinking too much about him. Men are attracted to women by the way women carry themselves. Once you're in the High value position, he will come running back to you.
You need to start focussing on what you're good at, what you enjoy doing and most importantly take care of your body. How? Yoga is the key. Meditation is the next key. Yoga keeps you fit, sexy, healthy whereas meditation keeps your mind calm and helps in taking decisions. You will notice that if you take yoga and meditation seriously, there will be glow in your skin. One of the things men are attracted to is smile, a happy woman.
I know this may sound weird but just imagine if you take care of yourself and stay focussed on you, he will think " oops me leaving her has not made her feel bad about herself. She's a high value woman. I better get back to her before i lose her to some other men."
You need to control yourself from contacting him for over a month or so. In this one month build yourself, do things you love doing, watch your favourite serials, give time to your parents, go out, make new friends, hang out with best friends, eat healthy and turn into a sexy woman. All the best :)0