Most Helpful Guy
You are way too confused to make any rational decisions. You were pulling away for a reason and that reason was your energy beam wasn't connected any more. That is out of our control we have no power to make that connect again, if it even was to begin with. You need to to get back to the mindset of where it was before you started missing what you had before so you can get back to looking within yourself to have the peace you need that was missing while with him.
Now that he was entertaining himself while you were split it will never be a good connection again. The relationship is over. You will never trust him again fully. he already told you that himself. You do not want HIM back you want a connection that fulfills you. There is nothing good by you forcing this to work.
Love is effortless and never allows the heart and mind to drift away. That is an energy of it's own.
So now you need to grieve the loss and move on without contact because that will just hurt you more and bring more turmoil because the love you wish to have does not exist any-longer.
Nothing I read of this even hinted of anything promising.
Take this time to learn more what you desire and settle for nothing less. You deserve much more and you were almost there while you too were together, only loneliness is causing this question to be asked. but deep down you know what the answer is.
you will find true love someday do not look for it nor get distracted by others that are less than what you desire. Make a list of what you want and believe some day you will receive it. Take this time to figure yourself out and do not kill time with people who don't fit the list.
Good luck and ask your Creator for guidance.
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm so sorry for what you're going through... that sounds horrible and similar to what happened to my boyfriend and I. He got super distant and I took that as a hint that he wanted to end it, and so I broke up with him. I think when people get distant we panic and think things are over. But what I fear happened with my ex and I is what was going on with you... you just needed space. You were stressed and confused, and wanted to have some time to figure things out on your own. Your boyfriend and I did the exact same thing by panicking and running away because we felt the love was not there.
But it actually was, right? So yes I do believe there is still hope for you to get back to where you left off before things deteriorated like they did. You obviously still care about him... you're letting him carry on with an obvious rebound while you're in pain missing him... so give him time but not too much time because the more space between you, the more work needs to be done to repair what's happened.
Talk to him in private again. Be honest, be real, tell him how you feel. Make sure he knows how much you want to put everything that's happened behind you and move forward together.
Luck to you both.