I've been working out a lot, but i can't quite focus on my career or anything at all, I'm struggling too much, what saddens me is that my ex doesn't give a fuck about it, she's having so much fun and her life is just perfect, while I feel stuck at mine. I had plans with her of moving to another city, but since she moved away to another one I really feel abandonned and Im even scared of it.
It's like anything is going well for me.
I got dumped for random reasons, she just woke up one day and told me she should split.
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I would take a cue of her behavior, namely that she doesn't care and is having so much fun. Is it possible that since your breakup that life has given her a couple of nice cards? Sure, it's possible. How likely is it? You might know better, but I'm tempted to think 50 / 50.
Flaunting how great things are sounds like her own mental defense. She probably has her own internal issues to deal with, and her approach to address them is to try to get support from family and friends to help her feel better. It also helps her stroke her ego because she has you groveling for her to come back. By advertising herself as being in such a wonderful position it probably gets her all kinds of attention from everyone in her life. I'm guessing that inside of her there is probably loneliness and / or insecurity of some kind, so she wants to put up a front about how things are so wonderful to boost her own feelings and to get other people to reach out to her and congratulate her.
As some female posters mentioned: the best thing to do is get into your mind that the relationship is over and keep working on yourself. You should cut contact with her entirely (block her phone number, unfriend her on social media, delete her email address, etc.), as it will force you to seek other company and activities that will help take your mind off of her and the relationship. If you have any mementos of her (pictures, gifts, etc.), box them up and put them in a storage spot you rarely look at. It will help you to not have constant reminders of her in your everyday life. Try it for about two weeks and see how you feel.1