I know that he felt the same at the time as well. He had started to talk about our possible future together, even mentioning marraige and kids (ofcourse only as a possibility down the line.) We also discussed about how we could make the long distance work.
When we parted ways, he told me that he had no doubt in his mind that he wanted to pursue a relationship with me. I felt the same, but I said that I still needed to give it a think, because I didn't want to make a decision in the happy, delirious state I was in.
Over the next few days it became more and more clear to me that I wanted to be with him. But something had changed from his end. He stopped messaging as much. A week later he texted me that he was not sure he should be in a relationsip with anyone then, or he should be alone. You see, he had only broken up with his ex fiance, about 9 months prior, and he felt like he was still not completely over her. I said if he didn't feel sure he was ready, he probably wasn't. And we said our goodbyes. His last text to me was that he hoped we could stay in touch...
I believed in my heart of hearts that he would eventually get in touch with me and want to get back together. But it has been 7 months since, and I haven't heard from him. And for some reason, he keeps coming to my mind. I still miss him dearly, because I felt like we had something very special and we could have made an amazing couple.
Every now and then I pick up my phone to text him. But then decide against it. I feel like if anybody, it should be him to make a move to get in touch... Do you think there is any point in reaching out to him. If so what do I even say?
Most Helpful Guy
There's never any harm in trying. Fuck looking pathetic or anything, just reach out. Who knows what he's feeling. Maybe he thinks YOU should reach out first, maybe he feels like he ruined things and doesn't want to text you because he thinks you're upset, etc. Then again it is possible he's moved on, but you never know. Everyone always says it's a terrible idea to reach out to their ex but if you're ready for the possibility of being ignored or rejected then I say fuck it, life's too short to wonder "what if". People that are afraid to get hurt never truly live or experience happiness because they aren't willing to take a chance even if they've been hurt before. Never be afraid to pursue something that will make you happy.1
Most Helpful Girl
You see... I was in a situation like this. I had not contacted my ex in a few months, until the longing of wanting to talk to him became too much. We "rekindled" our romance, so to speak, until he abruptly changed his mind and moved on from me, after weeks of leading me on. It was incredibly painful, and I still miss him to this day, even though he treated me badly. I took the risk of things going down in flames, and unfortunately, they did go down in flames. So, you can only really guess what's doing to happen, since I ever expected that to happen.
If it's been 7 months since you've talked, chances are, he's either moved on from his fiancee or has found someone else. The only way to find out is to reach out, since he hasn't. Be prepared, though. It isn't always smooth sailing.
Good luck :)1