Most Helpful Guy
I don't know who @anonymous is, but they have the right idea from the get go. I believe intuitively (perfect word) you know where this is headed. but you seem to be clinging to him, i don't know why... there are guys that would give an arm an a leg for a girl like you (me included) but you seem to stick with the one person that doesn't appreciate what you do.
If he is so nit-picky about stuff how about you tell him to do that shit himself then?
And he called you names after all that you have done? thats irritating to me...
Men like me are out there on the grind looking for women that could do just HALF of what you have mentioned and this douche has way more and he is just abusing it...
Forget the culture... i say leave his dumbass... let him know the meaning of the phrase "you never know what you had until its gone"...
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Most Helpful Girl
It seems like you intuitively know where this relationship is headed; the signs are all there.
My advice would be to leave him, and I say this because of these reasons:
-He's 30 and expects you to take care of everything that he's capable of taking care of. He's a grown man!
-He has broken up with you many times before, so he's just repeating this vicious cycle because he knows you'll always take him back.
-He compares you to his exes. That is a big NO.
-He yells at you and insults you; that's verbal abuse.
-He physically harms you (pulls your hair and shoves you). Any time a man lays a hand on a woman in the relationship, that's a HUGE red flag!! He will only continue to do this because you allow him and stay with him.
-He SOMETIMES apologizes for what he's done. Firstly, he shouldn't be doing things that warrant apologies, and if he does do those things, he should ALWAYS apologize, not sometimes apologize.
-He says he has to focus on so many things, yet it seems like he's expecting you to take care of those things.
-He pretty much sees no future with you, which is not only indicated by his actions and words, but also because he says you "won't be a good mother." I don't know why he's with you if he sees so many problems with you. It seems like he's just waiting for "something better" to come along, and is just staying with you until then (I'm not saying this to offend you, but it seems like he's doing that).
-He wants to change you.
Sure, you guys have been together for two years and he has his sweet moments, but I'm seeing a vicious cycle here of verbal and physical abuse, and even psychological abuse (he's telling you you're not good at this, you can't do that, you're not like his exes, etc.). It's not healthy at all, and I think you're letting his good moments outweigh his bad moments, and it honestly shouldn't be like that.
He doesn't deserve you, and you deserve so much more than what you have with him right now. I don't know why you're allowing him to treat you like this, and I don't know why you tolerate him time and time again. It's not a pleasant decision by any means, but you really need to leave him.