I met a guy a few months ago. He saw my instagram online and contacted me - we have a common friend. We chatted for a bit via messages - daily, he would send me a goodmorning / goodnight message and we got really close. We met in person and started dating. We fell for each other.
He is having problems with his ex wife - a financial dispute which may end up to court. He is a judge himself and wants to avoid going to court, as it would reflect badly on him. His kids are teenagers and sense that there tension between their mum and dad.
As a result of all of the above he's pushed me away... Just last Sunday we were together telling me that he does want me close to him and that I do fit into his life. That I am a good person and a quality woman. Him as a person he is very principled, and comes accross as a very genuine and sincere person... I guess, if he is not then he should be awarded an oscar as throughout the time we were dating / talking he made a genuine effort to please me, he would keep his word, remember what pleased me and treated me very very well... He only changed once the problems with his wife started and initially he told me that he felt that he did not have the emotional strength for me, but when we met I asked him not to push me away and he said he didn't want to, but didn't think he had the right to ask me to hang around... I said I would be patient...
Throughout the week, he's been very quiet. I sent him a message asking him for his news and he responded the next day saying:
I now have a new issue to deal with at home. Regarding us, my emotions and mind is elsewhere and there is nothing I can do about it. I don't feel it's fair how I am treating you. You deserve more, much more... I am sorry.
I responded saying that I am sorry he had more issues. And that for me he was the nicest thing that happened to me as he made me smile every day. And that from my part I was genuine in everything I had sai
- Should I keep in touch occasionally?Vote A
- Do you think he will come back?Vote B
Most Helpful Guy
I would seriously back off and let him initiate the contact. If he doesn't, then stay strong and move on.0
Most Helpful Girl
Keep in touch. Sometimes when you're dealing with a lot, you end up not being in as much contact with people as you'd like. When it's all finished and you're less stressed, you're in much more regular contact. He could just be going through that, a lot of people do.
Let him deal with his things, but keep things open. Let him know you're there. That's not to say you should be hanging on forever for a maybe, but just don't close the door fully just yet. Give him time to deal with his family and court issues. Especially with the kids.1