Okkkk. So me and my boyfriend have been going out since October 14th, (now Nov. 30th, almost Dec 1.) I really like him, he's a great guy. He's outgoing, bold, sensitive, thoughtful, considerate, and smart. But he's also comes off as a little strong, like he always wants to hold my hands and give me kisses (-which is sweet, but I always feel guilt when shown affection, I enjoy it, but in the back of my head, I think 'ah when is it over?' I know. Horrible :( I have nothing to be guilty about, I just am.) I kind of feel like this relationship is going too fast, we kissed on our first date. (3x) and then kiss every now and then. We always hold hands, and I admit, it is really nice, but I feel this weird feeling like "I shouldn't be doing this?" We "made out" once, just two days ago. ( -we only kissed 3x without stopping. So I guess it's technically called a makeout? ). Anyways. He has done nothing to me for me to even consider breaking up with him, but I feel that I should, before it gets too progressed. («meaning more makeouts and potentially touching.)
I guess the real q. is, "Am I overreacting?", "Should I break up with him?" And, "What should I say?"
*note. I am very nice person (NOT BEING BRAGGY, JUST GIVING U INFO.) (infact, I feel bad ab. even saying that^) ... continued... I am gentle and kind. I don't cuss, I am self respected, I have boundaries. He knows this. And he should* understand. So what should I do? I know he'll be hurt (I would too if I were him; I mean, everything's going great!) I really need help, and tips and suggestions and comments! Please. I wouldn't be asking this, if I didn't really need help!
In advance, thank you for even clicking on this. Means a lot. Absolutely ANY comments would help!! Thank you. Have a blessed day. :)
AND HAS ANYONE EVER BEEN IN THIS SITUATION? WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?
Thank you thank you thank you!!!
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At your age relationships aren't supposed to last long. It's normal.
You're learning about all these new feelings and new situations, and each person is going to have their own comfort levels, likes/dislikes, and want to progress at their own pace.
It can hurt to end a relationship, no doubt, especially when it's not because one person did something horribly wrong.
Bottom line is if you're not really comfortable with the relationship and feel it should be over, all you need to do is tell him that and that it's over. I know, easier said than done, but better to end it now than be unhappy or end up in a situation where you're doing things that you don't really want or that make it even more difficult to break up.
Hope this is at least a little helpful... :-)
by the way you'll look back at this period of time in a few years and it really won't seem that bad.1
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