At the weekend my boyfriend and I had a massive row! We've spoke a couple of times since then but only short sentences and haven't seen each other. He said he needs time to think about things that he's sorry and needs space. Hearing that scared the crap out of me !! This happened Saturday night/Sunday morning, we last spoke on Monday night when he said he was sorry and needed some space it was too full on - even though he way the one being very full on, I hate not speaking and wanted to message him to let him know that I know he's really stressed with his new job and other things and that I respect his need for space but that I'm here for him and love him. How do I word this? :/ I love him so much and we had spoke about the future settling down and this came out of the blue because he was totally normal until he got very drunk on Saturday night.
I think we've just spent too much time together recently and with drink at the weekend we both lost it with each other. I don't want this to be the end though. How do I make the first move but without pressuring him or making him feel more stressed? please can someone help me word a way to say this?
Most Helpful Guy
I would give him the time an space he asked for. I would wait until the end of the week or weekend and then try to contact him. Just say what you said here, that you know he is stressed with the new job and you both have been in each others hair a lot recently. Tell him you didn't mean to smoother him. Tell him you miss him and love him and hope he wants to see you again. I disagree with the other comment that "space" leads to disaster most of the time. Every couple fights. It is common for any relationship to need a bit of a cool down period or reboot.1
Most Helpful Girl
I honestly think the best thing to do is give him his space. Anything you say will only drive him away. He said he wanted space, so let him have it. No text, no call. Wait and see if he gets back to you, which, if you leave him alone, he most likely WILL do. If someone walks away mad, the best thing is let the work through it alone. Anything you do will seem pushy and have the opposite affect.
Normally I'd say prepare for the worst, "space " seldom turns out well. You mentioned, though, that he is under stress. In this case I'd just leave him be for a few days to work out his issues.1