okay so me and my online boyfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago, due to the fact that he doesn't think that we should meet because he doesn't want to hurt me and he thinks I deserve better than him and he's afraid of it not working out. he thinks really little of himself and basically thinks he's a piece of crap. I had the money to go there and everything and he said that he doesn't think its right. even though we've been together for 2 years and we've been talking about it for a while... he says I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him and he's not worried about how he'd feel about me at all if we met because he knows he would love me just as much if not more, but he thinks that once I meet him ill change my mind about him. I was really upset about this and said that I didn't think we should talk anymore if we weren't going to meet. he said that he didn't think that he could handle losing me completely but I said that I thought it was the right thing to do, but that maybe at some point I would be able to talk to him again because I couldn't think of losing him completely either. a little more than two weeks later we started talking again and now we're just friends, do you think its a good idea? ignore the fact that this is an online thing and he might be a creepy pedophilia whose going to rape me. he's not, I know this for a fact so I don't want to hear the dangers of online relationships. thank you (:
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2 years is a long time to have a relationship with someone but then say you don't want to meet. That makes me suspicious, as if he had someone else in person yet he kept you around for online entertainment. Of course, he could also be really genuine, I don't know.
I kinda had an online thing with this boy for almost a year and a half. Eventually something happened and he 'stopped liking me' but I could tell he was just trying to do what was best so neither of us got hurt. We didn't talk for a while and I was crushed but eventually we got back in contact while remaining friends. It's not so bad. It actually turned out to be easier we never met since our feelings couldn't really develop past a certain point. I think that's what honestly saved the friendship. I still would love to meet him one day. :)
How far apart to you guys live away from each other?
I think (if you are ABSOLUTELY SURE he isn't a creeper!) you both should meet up and just talk about things in person and enjoy each other's company without any pressure to continue a romantic relationship. It would be nice to meet the person you invested 2 years of your life with.
Good luck with all that!0