We've been together for 3 years and 8 months. Just 2 Sundays ago, she told me that she loved me and wanted to start a family etc with me. But then come Monday, suddenly she told me that her love for me is gone. So I tried my best throughout the week to get her back. In the end, I didn't manage to get her back and we broke up.. But she doesn't feel any pain at all. For me, it seems as though the time we spend together didn't mean anything at all..
But to me the pain is excruciating... I really don't know what to do. I just want to cry and sleep...
Most Helpful Girl
3+ years is a long time. People can't fake their love and feelings for that length of time. The love she had was probably real, but sometimes people change and their feelings change , so they grow apart. It's hard to say why she changed her mind so suddenly. I can only second guess. All you can do is ask her directly.
The most painful "goodbyes" are the ones unexplained. It leaves you constantly wondering why, so it prevents you moving on. Give her the space she needs. The right person doesn't leave, or they find a way back.
You have spent a long time loving her, so it's going to take time to get the through the pain you feel right now. Try to speak to her. It would be unkind of her not to give you a reasonable explanation considering how long you were both together0
Most Helpful Guy
He man, we have all been there and you are going to just need to realize she did you a huge favor and that break ups are awesome!
OK you cried over the loss that is all cool. to continue grieving after reading this is not.
take a deep breath and exhale that pain away. the first thing you need to do is get to place of acceptance. It is over ! if you get to that place in your soul you are less likely do look desperate foolish and or embarrass yourself. the last thing you want to do is think about her and imagine what she thinks or does. just know deep down she feels pain too a loss is a loss.
but that is it no more thinking. Thinking will only prolong the healing process.
This is why I think break ups are amazing favors. It clears the way for us to being one step closer to "THE ONE" the is made just for us. Our Creator knows whats going on and is molding both of you (who haven't met yet) to someday cross paths and effortlessly fall and grow true desired love. Love that never leaves and love that has almost a not good enough word to be explained what the true meaning is.
What you know now is absolutely nothing of what you with find someday.
I suffered for years with relationship had many some horrible, some good , some ok but all something wasn't quite right. i was always working on a relationship always needing to get someplace or if that or if this. ya know?
I even had an great relationship that I did everything right and one day it just ended. confused hurt and yet the grieving process was quick because i knew deep down that i was going to find that special someone.
but in all of those relationships I realized i looked for them or forced the connection like online dating and other ways that wasn't natural. None of those worked. that was crucial to figure out for me.
i took some time to figure myself out to clear away resentments and throw away fears and just be happy in my own skin and to grow closer to my Creator. i knew i was great guy and that someone is going to be very happy once we met. but i wasn't going to look for it. and i didn't and as effortless as it is to breathe I found the girl of dreams that I didn't even realize I had dreamed so beautifully.
So the point is let her go... be grateful for the connection but move on. next figure yourself out and get to a place of utter content with yourself alone. Then with all the blind faith that exists believe deep down you will find the love that is designed for you without looking for it.0