It's not fair to me, but I just want to get a second opinion on her actions. We broke up in May. It hurt. It was my fault, and I take responsibility for it. We tried to get it going again, but she told me she thought she was gay. So, for the next four months, she dates women. During all of this, we were mostly still talking, spending the night together, etc. She'd ask me to come over and clean her house, we still told each other we loved each other, etc. It wasn't healthy, but I was just super sad and stuck with it. She had two girlfriends over the summer, and after both ended, she would come back to me and try to get back. I shut her down the first time, and it felt great. But then I fell for her again after that, and it's been downhill since.
Skip to October. We hadn't talked in about three weeks, and I texted her saying I hope she was doing good. She asks me to call her and we end up talking for over an hour. Up until the beginning of this month, she was flirty as hell. She'd always ask me if I was at work, which is code for, "Come over," or, "Call me". I was at work at each time though, so the flirting would continue. I had no reason to believe she was seeing anyone at all. In fact, I was about to ask her if she'd want to meet up before I discovered she'd been dating a guy since the week we talked on the phone. I was devastated and confused. I asked myself why she'd do that to me, but now I know she was using me. So, I went no contact. Or, I tried to. I've told her twice that I need a break from her. She says okay at first, but then gets really upset/sad that I'm not choosing to talk to her. She has a boyfriend, so why does she need me still? Seriously, it's bizarre behavior even for her. She still reads what I write (when none of it is about her), sees my social media posts, etc. and still makes it a point to know she reads them. What is her problem?