Do men feel hurt the same way as women , are some men sensitive like care a lot. Do they get emoitnal but hide it? If so why do they hide this stuff?
Most Helpful Guy
i think yes, but we just have a different way of showing it, sometimes we get angry or we shut our selves of from the world, by doing stuff on our own. When my ex girlfriend miscarried our child at 5 weeks, she was crying , along with her 8 yo daughter, while they were sitting next to me. I felt really bad and i felt hurt as well but i told myself that i had to be strong for them. progressively my ex girlfriend became very hateful towards me, and a month later she left me. She never wanted to talk about it, or about us and left me without any closure. Till then i never cried a tear, when she left me i was really angry, mostly because i didn't know what i had done wrong. i've tried to help her the best way i could. I wasn't agressive to her even if she didn't wanted to talk and acted very hateful. i then lost my job as well, we worked at the same place and there was just a bad atmosphere. She resigned first but when she found out i lost my job she came back, she still works there now. So i lost a child, my girlfriend, my job and had to give up my appartment. At home , i can remember , i just began to cry, i felt so bad, i lost a child, and the woman i loved. I had been manning up for so long till it finally struck me, that everything i worked for was gone. now im doing fine, yes i still think about and i will always think about it but in a different context. i won't let her controll my life, she doesn't deserve it.1
Most Helpful Girl
Men dont show emotion bc they do not want women to laugh at them.,
women hide emotion bc they do not want men to kill them.
everyone has pressure to hide or appear to have control over their feelings.
he difference is men do not get attacked for emotions when they do not show them. women get attacked for emotions whether they show them or not.
it is not more 'ok' for women to be emotional in the sense of consequence, they actually get disrespected degraded demeaned beat up raped ostracized controlled , with the underlying excuse that they are emotional and therefore anything they do is ultimately somewhere inappropriate and needs a male hand., it is 'ok' socially for women to be emotional outwardly bc they are already considered inferior... their dignity has no where to fall. but a woman can n t climb out of this dark hole simply by acting strong stronger than a man bc she's still a 'woman'. and being a woman comes with many threats. the excuse is always women are women after all.
men face some disgrace from being emotional outwardly, but only to the extent they fall down to a woman's level. and they can climb out by simply acting differently.
men have much less at stake by showing their emotions. some hide them some do not. the ones that do in my opinion do it moire out of a pleasure of feeling superior other than any real 'need';. to protect themselves. they do not get killed or raped or fired bc they got caught off guard once or twice. thy just get a little embarrassed.
in any case men tend to react more internally to emotional stimuli they just do it in forms that are not 'called' emotional even though thats prosily what it is by definition. yelling rage fighting getting insulted offered indignation--these are all 'emotions' ands men engage in them, and publicly more often than women fight or 'cry';.
as for a guy not telling you how he feels. if he feels anything and he's withholding its to hold p;over over you. if he feels nothing an onset tell you its to hold over over you. you seem to not feel confident in making him about it. probably bc women are punished for raising such topics... they get slated as despite needy emotional. clingy. you're on here asking about him bc girl you can't. bc you'll be under attack. as a womAn. this is A form of 'hiding' feelings. you are hiding your concern.
to be direct in this case would be seen as 'emotional' not as logical bc you're a woman. if you were a man you'd be expected to say something..1