Boyfriend and I had an argument. He ate a piece of pastry and the crumbs fell on the floor. I'd already cooked, cleaned, and wanted to just chill. I asked him nicely if he could pick up the piece of crumb. He said "It can't be. It's not possible. I didn't drop it." There were crumbs on the floor. I picked them up myself, and I said "there were crumbs on the floor and I already threw them away for you. Just don't tell me there were no crumbs like I'm crazy," sounding a little upset.
I sat on the computer to read and just chill out.
Five minutes later, he accused me of being angry still. I said, "No, I'm no longer angry. I'm okay now, I just want to chill and read articles for a bit."
He kept saying, "No you're still angry." Then we got into another argument about why I'm not angry. I kept saying I'm okay. I'm not angry.
He stormed off, and he said, "Fuck you!"
I tried to calm him down, but he was inconsolable. We broke up that night.
Two days later, he said he's sorry, but he needs time. What did I do wrong?
A two days later, he said: "I hope you are doing okay. I am really sorry that I was so angry. I definitely need some time to think. In the interim I want you to know that I care about you deeply."
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You didn't do anything wrong, but he knows that if you didn't think it was a big deal you wouldn't have brought up the crumbs to begin with. So when he came to talk about it, you saying you're not mad was coming off as passive aggressive. There was a problem with no resolution.