Broke up after a year long off and on. Go to different colleges but we'll both be home this weekend. Haven't talked to her since the breakup a couple days ago. She cheated on me months ago and I can't get over it but I'm still in love with her. Its valentines day on Sunday and I just need advice what to do or say if she contacts me this weekend or week.
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let say she says, happy valentines day...i would respond with just 'thanks'...bro she cheated on you, I understand that sucks and I understadn you cannot change who you are in love with...youre heart knows what it wants and it won't change who it loves...but you need time, you gotta get this crap out your head - if she wants you back, if she wants you to gain her trust again she will put out the effort...if she doesn't then screw it - now look she may not say anything to you on vday and expect you to say something - she may be hard headed like my ex was on christmas when I finally texted her merry xmas and she replied back thanks you too...i was like ok that's it? but then the next day she called and said all she was doing all day was waiting for me to say merry xmas and she replied so shortly because she was trying to play it cool,...girls are weird man and very hard to understand...take this slow...who broke up with who? - just be cool and relaxed - do things to get her off ur mind...its horrible she cheated on you, but you need to REMOVE yoruself from her life in order for her to actually know if she loves you and regrets what she did...if you keep communication going she's going to think - oh ok hell always be here...now I'm not saying destroy communication completely...but for a while...id say 3-4 weeks ONLY let her contact you, you want her to know ur hurt but you cannot let her back into your life easy otherwise shell walk all over you...if you do get back together youve got to well I hope youd trust her before you did get back together, but youve got to put the past behind you and live for the future...i know it will be hard but if you really love her and eventually trust her again and she's proven that youve got to get over the past...anyways I hope this helps - keep ur distance, if she texts you don't respond back right away, give it an hr or 2 so she oesn thtink you weren't busy, you want her to think sh*t is he moving on and away from me already what the hell is he doing - short and simple answers will make her feel liek you don't care anymore and really make her think if cheating on you was worth it...when you do reply keep it short and simple...dont go back and fourth texting/talking for hours...good luck man0