A week and a half ago he was sending me messages saying he wants to see me and where am I etc. When I stopped messaging him etc he would do this. Three days before Christmas he send me a video of himself saying he was "so happy" and was in a at a party in a club with a girl. He sent me a video of himself at a club and when I looked at it, I realised he wasn't at a party but doing security. I agreed to meet up with him the next day as I realised that he was looking for a reaction and probably did this as I wouldn't meet up with him.
we ended up spending the night together with him being very affectionate apologising etc. (the first time Id agreed to see him in weeks)
since then he hasn't spoken to me and I got rightly frustrated and upset and asked him why he was blanking me. He got angry telling me not to contact him (which he has done before) told me he is seeing soemeone (which he has also said before) and then tried to call me several times which I missed as I was in the shower.
When I looked at my phone I had several missed calls and a message from him saying not to contact him, that he's seeing soemeone and then blocked me.
He has done this to me before.
im mentally exhausted with all this and will not go back begging.
Is he doing this due to rejection or what? We are both in our late 20s and I love him but can't cope with this anymore.
in a day or two or a week, im 100% certain he will unblock me and ask to see me.
Insight please? I want to go NC on him not to play games but for him to experience life without me and realise what he's lost.
Will this help? X
The man has me gone quite insane, with no self esteem left in me one bit.
Everytime I try to move on whether it's been a day/week etc there he is.
He's made me feel like I'm at fault, calling me names, provoking a reaction out of me saying things to me like burn myself, giving me the silent treatment etc. I finally had enough and went a little insane as anyone would.
And never ever again although knowing his pattern it won't ne long.
Most Helpful Guy
you won't be able to be happy if you continue to communicate with that person. you've to start to surround yourself with positive options, cuz the solution starts when you want and end up when you decide.
Let today be the day you stop being haunted by the ghosts from your past, and cut him out of your life. start forgiving yourself, It allows you to focus on the future without combating the past. you can learn great lessons from your mistakes, while not denying the fact.
start your life fresh and never look back.
Most Helpful Girl
He treats that you way because you let him. You allow the push/pull quality of your situation to continue by agreeing to meet up/spending the night/taking calls/messaging etc. You are both dramatic and into the drama surrounding what you have created. Its a toxic, dependent situation which will just keep going round in circles because that's all you know and expect from each other. It's a draining waste of time.