Okay, so my ex boyfriend and I had been dating for 6 and a half years.We were best friends since we were 12 and started "dating" when I was 14. But we were/are so in love and have never been with anyone else. We got along very well and had a ton of fun together for the first 6 years. But the past 6 months things started to go down hill. We started arguing a lot more over the dumbest things and found that we would just sit around the house as opposed to going out. He's the very jealous type, and I crave attention. I tend to have a lot of guys hitting on me because I am so outgoing but would never flirt back and risk losing what I had with my boyfriend. But, this would happen and cause huge fights because I felt like he didn't trust me. He said that I was taking advantage of him and not appreciating all that he does for me. Which,ill admit, he was the perfect idea of a boyfriend and I probably did expect to much. I realized this after we broke up.I wish I would have sooner. We broke up about a month ago and a week of him seeming completely distant which was odd for him. We usually saw each other everyday, but this week was different.( btw cheating is out of the question, he would never do that. and he was with his family all this week. so please don't even consider anything about either of us cheating :) ) Well at the end of that week I asked him to come over so we could talk about why everything seemed to be so different. When he came over he said he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me. So I ended it. I didn't want to be with someone who was unsure of spending their time with me. ( a week before this happened he was looking at engagement rings and talking about marriage.could he have gotten cold feet? or nervous about me being the only person he would be with for his entire life?) We didn't see each other for about a week which was about the longest we had spent apart, aside from vacations since we started our friendship. We texted every now and then but nothing more. It was so hard on me and he seemed to be fine with it. He told me that he didn't want to talk anymore or hang out. He said that he was no longer in love with me and did not want to be friends. We didn't talk for about 3 weeks. and then he called to hang out. Of course, I said yes. And we went out and had a talk about everything that had been going on between us. He said that he was sorry but he just needed his space.And that this time helped us learn a lot about each other and ourselves (Which was very true) But now we've been hanging out and acting like boyfriend and girlfriend just without the commitment. he says that he still needs his space and time to get his money and job in order and learn more about me before we get back into a relationship of arguing. is that just an excuse to have my comfort and his male freedom? if he really wanted to be with me, wouldn't he be. I don't want to give him everything I did before and lack that commitment from him.
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Long story short, he still has feelings for you of course. 6 years is a lot of time to just let go of. A man likes to be shown affection and that he is appreciated. Since he is the jealous type, you should play on that by assuring him that even though guys do hit on you, you want him and nobody else. He may look fine on the outside (that's his bruised ego hiding behind a veil of a non-chalant attitude) but he is thinking about it on the inside, a lot. He wants to be with you but wants to know if you want to be with him, sometimes even the guy needs to be romanced, if you know what I mean. Happy trails!2