Well , my girlfriend broke up with me , due to a lot of reasons , the most serious of which are that she thinks that I'm attracted to another girl and due to the fact that we live like an hour apart and it is hard to see each other . However , now that she found out that I'm not attracted to that girl , she wants to get back together(and uses all the methods of persuasion such as crying etc.) .
What is more , I started really liking that other girl because we are really alike(non-smokers , non-drinkers , musicians , speaking 3 languages ) and I don't think that I want to get back together with my girlfriend .
The problem is that I don't want to hurt my girlfriend , even though she broke up with me . how is that possible?(FWI both of the girls are members in my band)
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Don't get back with your ex due to guilt. Guilt can be good and bad. If you did something wrong, then you should feel guilty and offer a genuine apology. If you didn't do anything wrong, then don't feel guilty. Move on with your life. If you like this other gal, and you have more in common, then try it out. Your ex will have to deal with your decision, and if she decides to leave the band, then there's always recruiting through the classified ads. Sounds harsh, but true. Don't string her along because you feel guilt. You have to be happy too. She's upset and crying because she is confused about what really happened and she still loves you. Tears aren't typically produced on-call when you want to guilt someone.
You are feeling the guilt because you want to move on with someone else.0