I've just experienced my first real break up, a week ago. My parents are constantly complaining that I shouldn't be upset, emotional and that I need to be strong.. neither one of them has experienced a breakup having just been in the one relationship with each other. My mum is screaming at me that she is tired of it seeing me upset... but I told her that I cannot just pretend it didn't happen and keep my emotions inside it's not healthy... of course we are supposed to feel emotional.
Most Helpful Guy
Pretty embarrassing but I cried myself to sleep for months after a heartbreak. I turned into a whimpering little animal.
I think your parents lack sensitivity here, but probably they just want to see you happier and healthier.
The only thing to me is that if you just start moping about the house all depressed, it doesn't help your healing process. You have to kind of fall in love with something else. Time doesn't repair this stuff directly so much as filling your heart with something new to love, and that something new doesn't have to be someone. All you have to do is have a reason to be excited about a day other than obsessing about your ex.0
Most Helpful Girl
No, it's not bad to cry. Something significant happened to you that will leave a mark on your life. You should give yourself the chance to grieve like you would any other loss.
However, allowing yourself to dwell on that is not helpful. Allow yourself a grief period, but then you reach a point when the grief is no longer helpful to the healing process. When that point comes, you have to decide to be happy, even if you aren't, and let yourself be ok again. It's like when you lose a loved one. Don't feel guilty for being happy. And that may be what your parents are noticing.0