But in reality its not possible, if the husband who had been waiting and following a culture awaiting with some expectation that one day he too will get life partner who is only made for him and who would give her evrything to him. But when after marraige he finds out she slept with many partners blindly and even had ONS and unprotected sex before marraige, n now after marraige she confesses that she lied of being a virgin n the truth instead of doing it before marraige. So now the husband is suddenly under shock, that whatever he had sacrificed all througout till marraige by abstainence, is all in vain. Now many images strikes in his mind, when people says to get over it even those sentences hurt him a lot, he might also feel that he never got to be someones first whereas his wife enjoyed so many times that feeling, etc. Again along with that, feeling of insecurity, loss of trust, fear of having an encounter with her exes, etc to prevails. So actually how should such a victim be guided and made feel safe? Sry for the length.
Most Helpful Girl
Hidden_P thinks the husband needs to stop speaking in third person.
Anyway, Hidden thinks it was silly of the wife to hide something like this from you and is wondering what made her want to tell you. Was it guilt? How long were you together before you were married.
Has the husband been keeping his virginity for religious reasons or for something else?
As someone who has had sex before marriage and doesn't agree with waiting until marriage, personally Hidden can't see the issues. How many partners did she have? Hidden thinks that you may be overreacting, after all, I'm sure she wasn't the first person the husband dated so how is it different to bumping into one of the husband exes? Hidden also thinks you need to re-define your definition of the word victim - she didn't stab you, calm down.0
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Most Helpful Guy
If this is causing you such heartache, perhaps you need to remind yourself why you got married in the first place.
Thank being said, I don't know your culture...0