OMG guys, you don't know how desperate I feel! You know that feeling when you get like a mosquito bite and you want to scratch so so bad but you don't want to make it worse so you just have to make yourself not touch? Well, I feel like that except it ain't no mosquito bite.
Its been almost 3 months that my ex and I broke up. I've been missing him sooooo much and I want to talk to him via IM, MySpace, phone, I don't care I just want to talk! I DO NOT want to be in a relationship right now I would just like us to talk.
We have not talked by phone in almost 2 months. I don't want to be that "crazy ex girlfriend" so that's why I feel like this because I'm holding it. However, last week it was his birthday and I was undecided on sending him a happy birthday wish. So that day I just texted "Happy birthday" even thought we haven't even talked. I was surprised I got a reply. It read "Thank you. Although it would have been better if you gave me a call, but thank you" This made me think that he does want us to talk but I'm scared.
Since then, I feel like breaking that "no contact" thing and call but honestly I DO NOT want to be the first to do so. I don't know what to do, I feel like I want to call but I'm scared of finding out he has a girlfriend, or maybe he wants nothing to do with me.
What do you guys think I should do? Remember: I'm not trying to get back together, I would like a friendship.
And what's up with that text he replied? What do you think he means/feel by that?
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Well, how did you guys break up. If it wasn't ugly, then there shouldn't be any problems with talking. Also, quickly, if he didn't want anything to do with you, then he would not have said thank you when you wished him happy birthday, and he DEFINITELY wouldn't have wished that you would have called (this says [to me at least] that he still has feeling for you or still regards you as a good friend. Either that or he would like to talk about what happened between the two of you). If you do talk to him, must make it clear that you don't want a relationship, he should understand.
Now, if the relationship ended ugly (one of you was abusive, had a fight that you don't consider a dumb mistake), then it might be better off not trying to talk to him (but it doesn't sound like the case).
Also, really quickly, when you say that your 'scared of finding out he has a girlfriend', that says that you do want a relationship. Since your worried that he's moved on, it sound like you still have feelings for him. I'm not saying that you should get back together tomorrow, but just think about your feeling and what they could mean. Both this and the fact that you still want to talk to him says that you regret breaking up and probably want to get back together (eventually).
But in the mean time, I don't think friendship will be a problem. He already said he would like to talk, so oblige, you will both feel better.