The other day my friend told me that my boyfriend was texting some girl and called her gorgous and he asked her to hangout and I guess she said no. It really hurt though because I can't trust him anymore. We've been together for almost two years and how do I know if this is the only times its happened? and I don't want to have to worry all the time. I broke up with him and he was crying all friday night and sent me a really long message begging me to stay with him and saying that he didn't mean that and he didn't think she was gorgous and he regrets it, and he keeps saying it'll never happen again and hell change and stuff. I don't know if I should beleive him or not. it really hurts that he thinks another girl is gorgous, I keep hoping that he's telling the truth and that he doesn't think that but idont know. what do I do?
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I would go face to face, or by phone if the former is too hard, and try and talk to him. Why did he say those things? And please, if you want him to be telling him the truth, do NOT push him too much. If he is being sincere that he didn't mean it, he will break down if you push him too far, and you won't get much further into the truth.
Just be slow, as kind as you can stomach, and try to understand, but don't just give him your kindness. You do feel betrayed, just don't make him feel worse (and again, this is assuming he is telling the truth, which I would like to believe he is). If you don't like his answer, keep yourself broken up, you have the freedom to do so. If like the answer and really believe him with no doubt, give him a second change, but JUST one more. If he does it again, end it. You shouldn't have to put up with it, because it is not common nor appropriate behavior for a boyfriend.
And do NOT get back at him, it is not at all appropriate, and it is not what being in a relationship is about.0