ok,been talking with my old girlfriend,she keeps bringing up how she misses our past time together and sounds kinda like she may want to get back together. now we both met back in high school and dated for quite awhile.we broke up but neither can remember who dumped who,go figure.now this has been about 20-25 years ago. so now here's my question,what should I do about this? I would love to get back together with her, but I don't want to pressure her.we have both matured over the years and are both single [divorced] now.i don't want to say the wrong things and ruin my chances,but my emotions start to flow when we talk of the past and so does hers. thanks in advance
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Hmm. Try to find out what's her true intention of your relationship. I really don't want to bring salt here but girls also could be nasty. I'm just suspecting she unintentionally doing so. It's my complete guess. She just had bad romance and try to rebound you. After she's over the hard feelings she might also get over the feelings she had towards you. I had a friend who did similar thing. She used a guy to get over his ex-husband. I told her many times that's not good but she went on. After she was over her ex, of course she left that poor guy. It's so sad that people do such immature things. But they do.
If she's not in that condition, talk to her that how to get over the past smoothly. Just bring up this on the table. Then give her some space to think over it. You need also some time to think about it. Sometimes women don't know what they truly want. Even the guys. Give her some time to think. It's hard, I know. Because I'm also in break up situation. People differ. When my ex asked me out once more after several years, ye I went on because he was my first love. I kind of thought "who knows?" We kind of started to meet. But I realized that past is past. It was hard to bring back how I was fallen in love crazily with that guy. Then I stopped seeing him. She might be just misses all those good old days. Giving her some time will clear things. I mean talk first. Tell her that you don't want to dwell on only past. Then tell her that you guys need some time to think about those. Say that you'll call her about few weeks after. Also ask her to call you when she has clear idea of what she truly wants. Tell her specifically that your intention is not go into game of testing tolerance but just giving some time to each other to think.0