My ex left me for this other girl. I felt we had no closure, we go to school together so I have to see him and this girl relatively often. I don't really think about it a lot unless I see them then sometimes I still wonder "what is it about her that made him leave me for her?" I don't want to be with him anymore, our relationship was terrible, but I just still have questions. My current boyfriend is concerned that this means I am not actually over my ex. Do you think you can wonder how things ended with someone even if you don't actually want that relationship back?
- yes you can wonder why things ended without wanting to get back togetherVote A
- no if you wonder why it ended it's because you wish you were still togetherVote B
- im on the fence/I think it can work either way/I have no clueVote C
Most Helpful Guy
Sometimes you can wonder about a relationship that occurred 20 years ago. It's very normal and we don't always get answers.
But it's important to read between the lines. I'm sure if you think hard enough you can come up with an answer as tor why it ended.
You said it wasn't great, so it probably wasn't great for him either. Why did he leave you for her? Well why are you dating your new bf?
It's ok to wonder, if you guys still talk you can always Ask him. But it's not fair to your new guy to not give him your all by wondering too much. He will naturally feel you are not over it.1
Most Helpful Girl
Of course it's possible to think back about past relationships and wonder what went wrong. I don't think it has to mean you wish to be back with your ex. Reflection on the past is pretty normal; you live and you learn, right?1