Okay so, I dated this guy for four months over the Summer. He's the type of guy who will fall for a girl easily, and will give her his all. Well, we started talking a month after him and his girl of 2 years had broken up. I could tell he was ready to get over her, and throughout our relationship he showed it quite clealy.
Well, I was a major bitch to him. Really mean. Though I loved him, alot. And I knew he was perfect for me, but always took him for granted. Like honestly, everything about us individually complements each other. And we have everything in common. I know he's the love of my life..
But anyways, when he did break up with me, he went back to that girl. I take it was because she was always there, and yeah he missed her. Of course he did. But I reallyy don't think he was like dying to get back with her. We had broken up because I was a major bitch to him..
So yeah, after we had broken up, I tried to move on. But no one lived up to Josh. So it never worked, and I ended up depressed and dreaming of him each night. EACH AND EVERY NIGHT.
Until one day, I swear, my prayers were answered.
I had actually been "talking" to his friend Kyle. They weren't the best of friends, so I didn't really care. Well, their mutual friend Ian invited me to come see Kyle at a party. I was like yeah! Sure. They told me I had a ride and everything. So finee by me. And then he's like, well okay, me and Josh and gonna be leaving soon. I'm like...Josh? He's like "Yeah, Delgado." like it's no biggie. It was a big deal to me! For months it had been like he never happened to me. And now I was about to be in his presence..it was crazy to me. My heart was poundinggg. So I tried to reply easily to Ian over the phone, without my voice becoming overly high.
So I get picked up, don't say a word to josh the whole time, and get to the party. With Kyle the whole time, and catch Josh staring at me the entire time. Ian gets me and Josh to start talking, and then we don't stop, so I leave Kyle behind. It's so familiar with Josh. We both know each other so well. And he cares for me alot. And throughtout the conversation, he was like smiling and taking deep breaths..you know, like when you have that overwhelmed feeling? He seemed overwhelmed and happy to talk to me.
So yeah at the end of the night I'm taken home, and I say goodbye and get out of the van. And then I hear a door open, and it's joshs. I was like oh crap. Because of Kyle. So he comes up to me and gives me this longg hug, squeezingg me. I just stood there. Then he whispers with his face pressed against my hair "I never stopped caring about you" and kissed me on the head, where no one can see. he whispers a few other things, and then says "talk to me, okay?" pulls away from the hug, and kisses me on the lips. Just a peck, so quick I didn't know what to think. I was just like indifferent. he got in the car, and I walked home.
so we've been talking for maybe 3 weeks now. We're just friends, and it's been bothering me.
so yeah we talk like every day. And I check on his girl's Facebook to know when they're hanging out, and it's kinda funny how RIGHT when she's gone he texts me or IMs me.
So most of the time we just talk. Maybe reminisce on stuff.
and I'm like "um...no. but I'd deal with it"
so I don't know what to do. maybe he'll change his mind if we're together? like I know him and his girl are going through ups and downs.
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If he cheats with you he will cheat on you.
Don't be basic sweetie, he is running game on you. If he wanted to be with you he wouldn't be with her and trying to get sex with you on the low. You may love him but his actions aren't showing that he still feels the same for you. It's not right, and if it was love on his part he wouldn't have you in a f***ed up position. Why would you take a risk with your emotions like that? The odds are you will get hurt, if he wanted to be with you he could be, just like he could get sex with you if he wanted it. That right there shows what he really wants with you and it isn't to fully be with you. So why give him complete control over the situation, that is just foolish. You're considering hanging out and having sex with him and THEN finding out if he wants to be with you or not - that's a bad sequence of events. He's a player so you can either get played or not.8
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